Friday, July 10, 2015

Peaceful parenting win

This is why I love peaceful parenting.
The situation : Lailah had her nail polish out and had already finished painting her nails but didn't put them away yet. Noel was throwing the nail polish out of the bag. Lailah wanted Noel to stop because he was throwing them and hitting her with them.
First she alerted me what was going on.
 Me: It appears that you would like your brother to stop throwing them, is that correct?
 Her: yes.
Me: what do you think you can do to help the situation to get that outcome?
Her: I don't know.
Me: well, let's work together on it.
Lailah then got down at eye level with her brother and asked him a few times "Noel please stop throwing them. Noel can you stop throwing them" "Noel don't throw please".
Me: I stepped in - "that doesn't look like its getting through to him, what's next that you can try?" Lailah: she thought for a couple seconds then got the idea I was hoping she would. "I can put them away!"
Me: I think that's a very good idea.
Lailah: "ok Noel I have to put these away now okay." Then she cleaned them up.
Then to my surprise when she was finished she got back down on eye level with Noel and said, "Noel, you were throwing the nail polish. When you threw them you hit sissy with them and that hurt me *signed hurt to him and Noel signed hurt back*. Yeah, it hurt. Next time can you try not to throw the nail polish? I'm going to have to put them away now, ok?" Then she happily put them away and moved on to something else.
I'm not perfect at all but I must be doing something right. <3

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