I don't want to keep being hurt.

I hate quite the convo with Tom today. Very possibly the last convo ever.
I pretty much told him that he hurts me all the time and that I can't take it anymore. That I can't trust him at all anymore. And that all I feel from his is disrespect.
I think he felt hurt. But he's told me that he doesn't have emotional dependence in friendships and that he only stays friends with me because he wants me in his life. If he didn't have any emotional dependence than he wouldn't feel hurt is how I see it.
I pretty much broke up with my best friend of 6 years.
I told him he should go care about himself and forget about me. I said that I feel our friendship gets in the way of what he wants in life. He didn't understand because he's not thinking about the future and I am. I am thinking about in 3 years, 5 years, 10 years from now when he decides he wants to just go live in isolation and just disappears on me. And he feels that that shouldn't bother me because I shouldn't have an emotional dependence on him, but I do. I'm only human.
What's different about him leaving my life now rather than later? Well, the fact that it's on my own terms so I'm better prepared to handle it rather than randomly and suddenly when I can't handle it.
Plus right now I have Rebecca which seems to make it feel easier to let Tom go. I have a support, you know? Someone to turn to and confide it. Someone who is there for me and listens to me. I used to turn to Tom but he just doesn't seem to really be there for me at all anymore.
He seems to want this friendship where there are no ties.... nothing emotional, nothing physical, and nothing human.... I guess. But I am human. I can't just have someone in my life and interact with them often and not feel anything toward them. I can't just be disconnected... I can't just have someone in my life for whenever.
Part of me feels like I really am done here. I'm done with the hurt and the pain and being here for whenever is convenient for him.  And yet the other part of me feels like I will miss him a lot and I want him to learn something from this and care about me, fight for me or something. Idk.
I feel a large range of emotions... angry, upset, hurt, grief, pain, sadness, frustration, aggravation... etc.
Idk anymore. I just feel like I can't hurt anymore.