A "Real father" rant.

Complete rant !
I just saw that Scott's mother posted a photo/icon which says,

"A real father takes care of his children without the law telling him he has to."

LOL !!

Scott didn't send child support or anything for the first 2-3 years of his daughters life and ONLY does because I called his commanding officer about him not helping out with his child - who then ordered military child support! Scott also abandoned us THREE TIMES in the span of 2.5 years! First when I was pregnant with us and he decided he wanted to be off with some other female, the second time when he dropped us off at an airport with nothing but a pair of tickets ! Knowing damn well the flight wasn't until 11pm, with no cash or card or any way to feed our 2 year old. The third time was when he left us in a hotel room and told me we had 2 days to leave and my father had to rent a car and drive down 17 hours to pick us up to take us home!!!!
He doesn't send her birthday presents or even a card! Last Christmas he spent 60 bucks on her and that was like pulling teeth! He normally doesn't send her anything for holidays at all!
He comes home once a year and only sees her maybe 3 times out of the time he is here and if I keep her he doesn't even ASK to see her, I have to call HIM, I have to text HIM, I have to initiate it. "Hey, so... are you going to come see your daughter?" "Hey, are you going to see her this weekend?"
Oh and since we are finally going through our divorce, I went to a lawyer. She told me we need to come up with a written schedule which we both agree on, for when we each will have her when he has some custody of her - since he is leaving the military. I called him and explained this to him. He said he was "too busy" to figure it out and that I should just do it. He must not care about when or if he gets his daughter, right? Am I wrong to assume that? If someone really wants something - they find the time, no?!?

Yet, she considers her son a "real father". Bullshit!

Justin is more of a "real father" to Lailah then Scott has ever been !! HE plays games with her, HE encourages good behavior, HE teaches her letters and numbers, HE listens to her, HE reads to her, HE jokes around with her, HE piggybacks her around or carries her on his shoulders, HE thinks of her and gets her little surprises like candy or icecream, HE laughs with her and enjoys being around her ! Is THAT not how a "real father" is? Is that not actually being a pretty damn good dad?

Ugh !


How I want to respond,
"You are SO right. A real father would send his child a birthday card at least. A real father would ask to see his daughter when he's home without having to be contacted first or at least call her via phone or even skype while he's away and she/he is with their mother. A real father wouldn't have a military enforced child support agreement set up by force by his commanding officer because he didn't help out at all for the first 3 years. And a real father certainly would not abandon his child and his/her mother in random places in states 17 hours away from home. But oh, that would mean that your son isn't a 'real father'. Well, fuck."